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Chapter 1457 Jealousy and Envy (The last day of February, please subscribe for support, thank you!)

"This..., what's going on here? What's wrong with my dantian? Where's the true energy in my body? Is this me dreaming, huh?! Could it be that I'm really dreaming, otherwise, how could I not feel it? What about the zhenqi in my body? Monkey, tell me, am I dreaming?"

Leng Xin's words were full of madness and panic, his eyes were even more red as he looked at the monkey in the distance, and a pale look appeared on his face, it was obvious that Leng Xin's heart was completely broken now.

That's right, any warrior, no matter which warrior it is, will collapse like this when he knows that his martial arts have been abolished.

When he got used to the powerful power in his body and the noble status brought to him by this power, he suddenly found that he had lost all of this. When encountering such a thing, the heart would have a collapsed emotion.

Leng Xin is just an ordinary warrior, so it is understandable for him to have such broken emotions in his heart.

{No}{wrong} .{[}?? Leng Xin would ask the monkey like this, in fact, he wanted to get some comfort from the monkey and get the answer that he was dreaming. Unfortunately, reality soon shattered Leng Xin's 'sweet dream'. "Boss, your martial arts have also been abolished?" The monkey's rhetorical question directly shattered the 'sweet dream' in Leng Xin's heart. Now Leng Xin's face is really gray, and the hair on his head that was originally full of life The swarthy hair also suddenly began to gray, the swarthy brilliance completely disappeared, replaced by a head of gray hair...

The current Leng Xin gives people the feeling.The whole look of a useless person.

"Is also abolished...?" Leng Xin repeated this sentence, and then he looked at Houzi with an incredulous expression: "Monkey, you were so disappointed just now. Could it be that your martial arts were also abolished?"

"Yeah, brother, I just found out that my martial arts were abolished, and my dantian has been shattered, so that's why I was so lost, and even almost entered a demonic illness.

it's here.I have to thank you, brother, if the clod you threw hit me, I would probably be possessed by now.At that time, I will not be saved, brother, thank you! "

Monkey thanked Leng Xin very sincerely this time.certainly.Monkey would apologize so sincerely, maybe because Leng Xin also said that he was also abolished in martial arts, so Monkey's face looks a lot better now, and he is still in the mood to thank Leng Xin.It is actually very common for monkeys to have such a mentality, which is actually a manifestation of jealousy and jealousy.

In modern society, there are countless people with such a mentality, and many people have a mentality of jealousy and jealousy.I can't see that others are better than myself, especially in this vain society.Such a mentality of jealousy and jealousy is very common. I believe everyone has experienced such a thing, or seen such a person.

In fact, being jealous of the virtuous and the energy is a kind of "peacock mentality" of people.

For example, I don’t know when it started, you like to compare yourself with others: a colleague bought a designer dress, and you bought a more expensive one; a colleague’s voice was louder, and you deliberately dialed Make a phone call and call at the top of your voice; and once someone else is better than you in some aspects, you feel like you have overturned the five-flavored bottle, which is very unpleasant... These are actually a typical "peacock psychology".

Peacock mentality, or peacock mentality, is a competitive mentality, a competitive mentality, and this kind of mentality often brings trouble to oneself because of its competitiveness, which is also a very common psychological hidden danger in modern people.

"Peacock spreading its tail" is a magnificent sight, but it also has the meaning of showing off and domineering.

Once a person develops a "peacock mentality" in dealing with others, he will easily fall into a situation where he is constantly comparing himself, and often blindly compares himself in order to stand out.

Just like the other side of arrogance is low self-esteem, the "peacock mentality" actually stems from a deep-rooted sense of insecurity. The society places too much emphasis on success and achievement, which can easily make people feel impetuous and eager to win.

Nowadays, many people "can't see" that their colleagues dress better and use them better than themselves in their work units. Therefore, these people will try their best to "compare".

For example, the workplace likes to compare itself with others, and women are more prominent in this aspect. For example, colleagues in the same office spend 3000 yuan on a brand-name dress, and many women will spend 5000 yuan on a better one;

When I saw a colleague wearing a diamond ring, I pestered my husband to buy a bigger one to show off; my colleague called a little louder, and some women would deliberately dial a phone and call with a louder voice. Phone... wait.

Of course, not only women have such a mentality, but men also have it, and they are also very strong. For example, old classmates in middle school or college, or even relatives who bought a car at home, many men will be jealous ,, the qualified man in the family will try his best to buy a small car, even if he owes a lot of money for it, he doesn't care.

If the family situation doesn't allow it, and you can't buy a car yet, at this time, the man's mood will be very lost, and it will even be so serious that he hasn't recovered after a whole week...

Wait, there are countless comparisons like this. In fact, it is the mentality of showing off and comparing that people have in their hearts that is "mischief", that is, the "peacock psychology" in psychology.

This kind of mentality will put oneself in a situation of comparison and competition, and it is a blind comparison.

Psychological experts said that everyone will face setbacks, blows and various pressures, and the "peacock mentality" can easily cause psychological imbalance, and then lead to physical and mental diseases.

People who like to compare and have strong self-esteem, it is recommended to learn not to be too demanding on yourself, relax your mind, and learn to be content and happy.

"Peacock psychology" is a very common psychological hidden danger among modern people. In the final analysis, it is a kind of inflated vanity.

Vanity psychology means that a person uses external, superficial or other people's glory to make up for his own internal and substantive deficiencies in order to win the attention and respect of others and the society. It is a very complicated psychological phenomenon.

The French philosopher Berg-G-Sen once said: "Vanity is hardly a kind of evil. However, all evil deeds revolve around vanity, and they are just means to satisfy vanity."

Of course, people cannot avoid some vanity.Everyone's heart is actually full of vanity, but if a person's inner vanity is too much, there will be a psychological imbalance, that is, "peacock psychology".

At this time, you may wish to check whether you have been divorced from reality, so that you often have to inflate yourself in order to meet the perfect image in your mind.

People with strong vanity will unconsciously mix selfishness, hypocrisy, fraud and other factors in their thoughts.This is in stark contrast to such virtues as modesty and prudence, being open and aboveboard, and not trying to make a name for yourself.

So how to avoid "peacock psychology"?

In fact, it is very simple to overcome the "peacock mentality", as long as you do the following points.Then you can completely overcome the 'peacock mentality' and become a big winner in life!

One is your four words of knowing contentment and happiness:

Nine out of ten people who are unsatisfactory in life, no one can have a smooth life in everything.The so-called "all the best".Just a nice blessing.

In the workplace, each of us will encounter various setbacks and failures, as well as various temptations.If we can achieve contentment and happiness, we will save ourselves a lot of trouble and worry.

The second is that you must have a mortal mentality in your heart:

There are thousands of reasons for a person's inner happiness, but the reasons for unhappiness are relatively concentrated: too high expectations for oneself.

In the workplace, there are always people who think that "heaven is responsible for everyone", so they set their own goals very high and hold "big ambitions".In fact, there are many goals and lofty ideals that are divorced from personal reality and personal ability.This brings people troubles all the time.

Therefore, in the workplace, it is best for us to lower our mentality, hold a "mortal mentality", and give ourselves a achievable goal, or set an ideal within our own ability. In this way, we can obtain from ourselves I see hope in every achievement and enjoy the joy of success.

The third is that you have to set up fewer opponents in your heart:

In the workplace, many people like to think of their colleagues as their "rivals" in the workplace consciously or unconsciously, so that they are always in a tense state of competition.In fact, there are so many opponents in the workplace, and there is no need to put others on the opposite side of yourself all the time.

A real professional should have a peaceful mind in his heart, change the concept of "opponent" into the concept of "helper", and advocate "peace is the most important", because it is always faster to walk with strength than before the battle.

In addition, you need to see more of your own strengths, and there is no need to use yourself to set other people's life patterns and life trajectories.

Maintaining personal independence and integrity is the foundation of a successful life.

Fourth, you have to learn to tolerate others:

A psychologist said: "People who like to compare often place their expectations on the closest people around them when their own abilities are limited. Some wives look forward to their husbands, and some look forward to their children."

Once this "expectation" is not realized, it will inevitably bring great disappointment to the parties and even give up all hope.

Everyone has their own life and life trajectory. The so-called "everyone has his own aspirations". That being the case, why do we have to impose our own ideas on others? This is not only unwise, but also unrealistic.

"Don't worry about scarcity, but worry about inequality" is a famous saying of Confucius, which is still applicable in today's society.

When a person is promoted because of his hard work, someone will say sarcastic remarks behind his back, saying sourly that you got it because of a special relationship; when you attend a class reunion and see other people wearing famous brands and driving a good car, your heart will suddenly feel empty, and your tone and expression will be different. It becomes unnatural; in the market, many merchants do not hesitate to suppress their opponents by cutting prices at a loss, and finally end up with a lose-lose...etc.

There is an old saying: "A tree that is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it." The phenomenon of not seeing others' kindness and dragging people's legs has existed since ancient times, and it is not uncommon in China today.

Often when interests are involved, this kind of "harming others and benefiting oneself" will happen. There are three main reasons for this.

1. Human nature triggers jealousy.

In life, when people see that others are better than themselves in certain aspects, they often think that others are better than themselves. However, this kind of "goodness" is mostly their own guess, which can easily make people feel psychologically unbalanced, resulting in jealousy .

Under the influence of jealousy, people with different personalities will behave differently: some people are motivated.Work hard; some people will blame themselves and their self-confidence will be hit; others will be narrow-minded and unbalanced.Playing tricks behind the scenes and making others unhappy, which is also known as "pull back";

There are also people who use other people's success to blame close people. For example, the wife accuses her husband of "not earning as much as the old man next door" (hehe, the old man next door was shot again), which leads to disharmony in the family relationship.

All in all, not seeing others better than oneself is mostly due to jealousy.Of course, the existence of this kind of psychology is normal and is due to human nature.Don't make a fuss.

2. Historical inheritance brings insecurity.

Traditional culture makes other people's "good" bring great insecurity to Chinese people. In the past, the comfortable life of "wife, children, and hot kang head" was the pursuit of most Chinese people. The sense of security brought by "one acre and three parts of land" is real.

Now.Houses, cars and children have become the ideals of life for the Chinese.When you see other people have more houses, better cars, better children.Insecurities are triggered.

In modern China, internal and external troubles, and several national perils have deepened this sense of insecurity.The widening gap between the rich and the poor in modern society, limited social resources, and unfair distribution make Chinese people turn this sense of insecurity into hatred of the rich.

For various reasons, the mentality of not being nice to others will be deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people, forming a deep-rooted "psychological gene".

3. Wrong education solidifies bad mentality.

The sense of insecurity deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people makes parents worry that their offspring will not be able to get better treatment in their future lives, or even fail to gain a foothold.

Therefore, parents cultivate their children's sense of urgency from an early age.Compare the strengths of other people's children with the weaknesses of your own children, hoping that the children can learn from each other's strengths to make up for their weaknesses.

This approach makes children resistant.Even deeper jealousy.

Such an unreasonable traditional education method is a fertile ground for breeding the mentality of "not being nice to others".

Always holding the mentality of not being able to see others better than yourself, not only makes yourself tired, but also makes people around you uncomfortable; not only damages the morale of the team, but also makes yourself rejected by the team.This mentality intensifies during certain social periods and periods of social change.

With the development of society, this social psychology will gradually weaken.

For example, the "post-80s" have a much weaker sense of insecurity than their parents, so they dare to fight, dare to break through, and dare to work hard in a strange city.

In modern society, the development is getting faster and faster, and the pace of life is also getting faster and faster. Therefore, everyone will face setbacks, blows and various pressures at different times and at different points in time. Therefore, many people are easily infected. Obsessed with "peacock psychology" can easily cause psychological imbalance, which in turn leads to physical and mental diseases, and the result is of course ruining your life.

Therefore, there is no end to showing off and comparing, and showing off and comparing will inevitably lead to happiness forever far away from oneself.If you want to live happily and become a strong person in life, then you have to overcome the vanity in your heart and the 'peacock mentality'!

However, although this is the case, when you are really facing such a thing, many times, your own heart will be unknowingly affected by this mentality of jealousy and envy, and then you will do something that you can't even imagine. If you can't do it, you will eventually make a big mistake that you will regret endlessly.

At that time, even if you wake up, it will be too late, the big mistake has already been made, and it is irreparable.

Therefore, when you feel that the mentality of jealousy and jealousy in your heart is about to appear, and you don’t want this mentality of jealousy and jealousy in your heart to appear, you can try the following tricks to overcome the jealousy and jealousy in your heart.

First of all, you have to clearly know that comparison is necessary, but comparison is not good.

You have to set a suitable comparison goal for yourself, such as comparing yourself with celebrities, you will definitely not be able to compare.It is best to compare yourself with yourself, whether the current self is better than before, and whether the current self is working harder than yesterday.

Secondly, when encountering injustice or mental imbalance due to some small things, try to calm yourself down, and don't let other people's "goodness" become the fuse of your unhappiness.

You can try to take a deep breath and tell yourself in time that "others are only good in what I think is good", "everyone has a difficult scripture to recite", "there is no absolute good or bad in the world", etc.

Another point, which is also the most important point, is that you must have confidence in yourself, and you must firmly believe that as long as you work hard, you will be able to have your own success and become a strong person in life.

Finally, communicate with people close to you to a certain degree.Some people like to be motivated, while others want to be encouraged. Otherwise, blindly touting the former and finding fault with the latter will be counterproductive.

In short, jealousy and jealousy are a difficulty that you must overcome to become a strong person in life. If you want to become a strong person in life, and want to truly and completely control your own life, then you must overcome the jealousy and jealousy in your heart. Only in this way , your life can usher in a rainbow of success.

Leng Xin had repeatedly asked the monkey loudly, why the monkey didn't answer, and didn't even respond at all. In fact, at this time, it was the jealousy in the monkey's heart that was at work. He was jealous that Leng Xin was still a warrior.

After the monkey woke up, he checked his physical condition immediately. Therefore, the monkey soon knew that he had lost his martial arts. Moreover, according to the condition of his body and when he was lucky, the kind in his dantian The heart-piercing pain, the monkey immediately knew that his dantian had been completely abolished.

In other words, the monkey's martial arts were abolished, moreover, it was completely abolished.

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