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Chapter 1316 Flattering

"Xiaojie, get ready to put away the anchor, let's go back to the pier." Seeing Leng Xin focus on catching yellow croaker, Xu Chang is ready to go back to the pier, with someone like Leng Xin, who knows what will happen later what a bad thing.

Hei Shihui-fen-zi, when faced with the temptation of money, can do anything.

For the sake of money, killing people or causing serious injuries to others, these black and white people will--divide--it comes at random.

Although on the sea, Xu Chang and his two brothers don't need to be afraid of the black hands of these gangsters, but Xu Chang doesn't want blood to be stained on the hands of himself and his younger brother Xu Jie.

"Well, brother, I got it." Xu Jie didn't say anything else, and went directly to the stern to pull up the anchor and leave here. Although Xu Jie was very upset that Leng Xin occupied this yellow croaker fishing ground, but for the safety of his family, Xu Jie endured the bad breath for a while.

But, sometimes, God just loves to joke with people. In Xuchang, when Xu Jie and the two brothers wanted to leave the yellow croaker fishing ground here in Fairy Beach in peace, some people didn't want them to leave.

The monkey next to Leng Xin came directly to Leng Xin when he saw the two brothers Xu Jie were about to leave, and said to Leng Xin maliciously: "Brother, Xu Chang, the two brothers Xu Jie seem to be preparing to leave here, brother , We are not professional fishermen. In terms of fishing, we cannot compare with Xu Chang and Xu Jie.

Besides, this is a yellow croaker fishing ground, as long as we can keep this yellow croaker fishing ground a secret for a while.Or if we keep it secret all the time, then our gains will be really huge.Brother, you can go to the Jade Pagoda to buy pills to improve your cultivation.

As long as you have enough contribution points to buy pills, you will definitely be able to occupy a place in the Yushi District in the future.Brother, as long as you have a high status in Yushi District, then on the earth, you can do whatever you want, brother.

big brother.Now if we let Xu Chang and Xu Jie go, then our speed of catching yellow croaker will definitely be much slower.Moreover, when the time comes, if it is Xu Chang, after the two brothers Xu Jie go back.Directly expose this yellow croaker fishing ground to other fishermen.Brother, you can't enjoy the treasure of the yellow croaker fishing ground to yourselves.

Brother, we have a grudge against brothers Xu Chang and Xu Jie. If I were either Xu Chang or Xu Jie, I would definitely expose this yellow croaker fishing ground to others after I go back.So, big brother.Can Xu Chang and Xu Jie be allowed to leave now? "

Under Leng Xin's subordinates, Houzi has always placed himself in the role of the dog-headed military commander. He can become the number one person around Leng Xin, except for the entry level of Monkey's "Eagle Eye Skill", it is because of giving Leng Xin Come up with ideas to frame others, or deal with others, to obtain some illegal gains.

Therefore, in essence, the level of crime of monkeys in the black society led by Leng Xin is quite large.If the monkey falls into the hands of the law now, he is also the result of a life sentence.

"Hmm... Monkey, you are right." A cold light flashed in Leng Xin's eyes, and the monkey's reminder made Leng Xin realize some of his mistakes.

Indeed, the two brothers Xu Chang and Xu Jie have a grudge against each other. If I were Xu Chang, any one of the two brothers Xu Jie, I would be very unwilling to let this treasure land fall into the hands of the enemy, and I would 100% Spread the news of this treasure land.

In this case, perhaps, there will be some battles for this treasure land.If you are lucky, maybe your enemy will die in this battle.

Leng Xin knew very well that he should not look at too many people on his side. In fact, once he met a truly powerful warrior, Leng Xin's side would definitely be wiped out.

Thinking of this, Leng Xin has already made a decision in his heart, he will not let the two brothers Xu Chang and Xu Jie leave here so easily.For the sake of this golden yellow croaker fishing ground and to speed up the speed of catching yellow croaker, the two brothers Xu Chang and Xu Jie had no choice but to devote themselves to this route.

As for Xu Chang and Xu Jie, would the two brothers be willing to join him? Hmph...!Now this matter has no choice but for the two brothers to disagree.

Thinking of this, Leng Xin rolled his eyes, and he immediately had an idea: "Monkey, come here, do this..., this..., and then this..., that..., understand?" Leng Xin began He ordered the monkey to deal with Xu Chang and Xu Jie in this way.

"Brother, I understand. I will arrange it right away. Brother, you are really good. According to your arrangement, brothers Xu Chang and Xu Jie are doomed this time. Brother, the monkey really admires your resourcefulness."

While talking, the monkey stretched out his thumb, and began to praise Leng Xin.Monkey was able to gain Leng Xin's trust and stayed by Leng Xin's side all the time. His flattering skills were also one of the reasons.

The term "flattery" actually originated from the culture of the Yuan Dynasty. When ordinary people of the Mongolian nationality met each other while leading a horse, they would often pat the opponent's horse's buttocks, feel the horse's fat, and add a few casual praises of "good horse" to win the horse. the favor of the master.But after a long time, some people just blindly say flattering words regardless of whether other people's horses are good or bad, strong or weak, and call bad horses good horses.

Gradually, people called flattery to their superiors as "flattery", which is used to satirize the behavior of flattering and flattering others regardless of objective reality.It is a metaphor for a person who often flatters and flatters, saying a lot of exaggerated compliments in order to please the leader.

There is another allusion about flattering: this allusion comes from the culture of the Yuan Dynasty.It is said that the common people of the Mongolian people will own a few horses to solve the problems of travel and transportation, and the herdsmen are often proud of raising horses.

Sometimes when people meet each other while leading a horse, they often want to pat each other's horse's buttocks and feel how the horse's fat is.He also boasted a few "good horses" casually to win the favor of the horse owner.

At first, people seek truth from facts.Good horses are said to be good, but after a long time, some people blindly say flattery regardless of whether other people's horses are good or bad, strong or weak, and call bad horses good horses.

It is said that Mongolia is a nation that wins the world immediately, so most of the officials in the Yuan Dynasty were military generals, and horses are often a symbol of a general's power, identity, and status.The best compliment a subordinate can give a superior is to pat his horse and praise his horse.

Gradually, people called flattery to their bosses "flattery".This is because the words of praise are different, but the actions of flattering the horse are the same.This is the origin of "flattering".

Later Mongolia entered the Central Plains.After the establishment of the Yuan Empire and the establishment of the Yuan Capital, their culture gradually penetrated into the Han culture, and the word "flattering" was handed down.

Some people also say that you should never slap a horse's butt when you are actually slapping a horse.But because Han people seldom ride horses.Think of "flattering" as "flattering".As for whether the horse's butt can be photographed, there is still no conclusion. In short, it is good not to photograph the horse's hoof.

Regarding the term flattery, there are actually some folk anecdotes that have been passed down for a long time.Legend has it that a long time ago, there was a rich man outside the Great Wall who bought a good horse and was very happy, so he invited his three sons-in-law to drink.

Drink three rounds.The rich man took out the BMW from the stable and asked the three sons-in-law to compose poems to praise the horse.

The three sons-in-law wanted to please the father-in-law.They searched their stomachs one after another, looking for good sentences.

After a while, the eldest son-in-law came forward and said loudly: "Put a golden needle on the surface of the water, and my father-in-law rode to Yinshan Mountain. After traveling hundreds of miles, the golden needle has not sank yet." The rich man praised him again and again.

The second son-in-law was not in a hurry, and read word by word: "put goose feathers on the fire, my father-in-law rode to Yuyao on horseback, and traveled thousands of miles, but the goose feathers were not burnt." The rich man was overjoyed after hearing this.

At this time it was the turn of the third son-in-law. The third son-in-law was so stupid that he didn't know what to say. He just patted BMW's butt with both hands. BMW got impatient and farted.

The third son-in-law had an idea: "The horse farts, the father-in-law rode to Kuaiji, tens of thousands of miles, but the fart is still open." The old rich man couldn't laugh or cry.This is where the term flattering comes from.

Regarding flattery, someone even edited a book called "The Great View of Flattery".The annotators selected hundreds of materials about "flattering" from nearly a hundred ancient books such as "24 History", "Zi Zhi Tong Jian", "Continued Zi Zhi Tong Jian", Zhuzi, notebook novels, etc., and collected "flattering" Great achievement.

How far did the "flattery" go?Disgusting to read.

During the Northern Qi Dynasty, Emperor Chengwu's favorite officials and scholars suffered from typhoid fever, and the doctor told him to take "Huanglong Decoction".What is this soup?Big shit is also.His Excellency looked embarrassed, and there happened to be a literati present at the time, so he volunteered to say: "My lord, this product is very easy to drink, let me try it for you first." After speaking, he drank it all.

Not only have people in China been good at "flattering" since ancient times, foreigners also love "flattering".There is an expert named Stengel in England who wrote a book to teach the secrets of flattering horses: be subtle and just right.It's really a matter of experience, because there has long been a saying in China called "flattery is on the horse's legs".If you don't please people well, you don't get well.

Don't think that only small people can "flatter". Stengel said that contemporary political leaders are also proficient in this way.The example given is that the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom, Bryer, visited Washington, and he first met "kidney invigoration" (hey, I just wanted to change his name to this), afterward Bryer said: "He really left a very deep impression on me..." Also Describe 'tonifying kidney' as "very capable" and "very smart".

Some people say that the Chinese "flattering" is similar to the idiom apple-polish (wipe an apple) that originated in the United States at the beginning of the last century.

360 lines, and now another line has been added.which line?flattering.It is said that in Tokyo, Japan, there are two young people who have turned providing flattery services to others into a career.And their business is getting more and more popular, because there are such people in the world, they say: "Although I have to pay for a few compliments, I am still very happy."

It was unheard of for "flattering" to become a profession.Don't forget, in the Chinese zodiac, there is a dog behind the horse.Now, someone is slapping bullshit.

Of course, as soon as you see the term flattery, you should not think that this term is 100% derogatory, and think that this term is very bad. In this case, it is too prejudiced, because, on certain occasions, or certain processes of dealing with things among.Behaviors like flattering can really get twice the result with half the effort.

For example, make a compliment call to some of your customers regularly, praise him for his presence, how good it is.How powerful; for example, to help the boss who loves to sing ktv or your colleagues to collect some new song mp3, of course, you must study his or their favorite style in advance, and don’t forget to give him or them the high hat of "song god" in the end;

Another example is to write a deeply affectionate sixteen-line poem for an executive who is about to resign, and inadvertently reveal the emotion of reluctance besides singing praises—who knows if he has been poached to take a higher position?Wait, these little things that are a lot of effort - most of them are courtesy or babysitting, or to put it bluntly, sycophantic.It's flattery, or to put it nicely, it's sensible.Empathetic, even kind and hardworking.Is not it?

As a company employee, take the initiative to maintain high-quality relationships with customers; as a subordinate, actively share labor-intensive affairs for the boss; as a colleague.Willing to create a happy working atmosphere in the office.If the business ability is equivalent.If such an employee is not promoted, who will be promoted?

Things like flattering are actually all around us and can be seen everywhere, and even in ancient times, there were countless behaviors like flattering.

For example, when a good minister of the Qing Dynasty wrote a letter to the emperor.It is usually written on the booklet, "The emperor is wise. The minister thinks..." That is to say, the first sentence flatters the emperor, but the second sentence clarifies one's own different opinions - pay attention.He is flattering people, not this decision, and this method can be emulated.

There are almost no ministers in Chinese history who are not sycophants. A little superficial learning is enough to last a lifetime.

Many people think that flattery is disgusting, obscene, and shameless, but it has nothing to do with flattery itself.The problem is with the sycophants.A nasty, obscene, and shameless person, no matter what he does, will be nasty, obscene, and shameless. Isn't that just flattering?

How can flattery be useless?Even God wants us to praise and worship every day, and it depends on whether you are sincere when you pray.If you use sincere prayers to flatter, is that flattering still flattering?Sincerity has turned flattery into praise.

The highest level of praise is to let the person you praise not know that you are praising, and the corresponding highest level of flattery is to make the person you praise believe in your praise wholeheartedly.

The skill of a master sycophant is that he can figure out where the "reality" is in other people's dreams, and give it a light pat at just the right moment, which makes him suddenly feel excited that the dream has come true.At that moment, you have become his confidant.

The master flatterer has spotted your dream, and is already excited when your dream has not come true.A master sycophant of a higher level will weave a dream for the other party and put the other party into this dream.Is this heaven or hell?How can flattery answer this question for you?

"Your plan is great, it is very inspiring to me", or even a sentence of encouragement "I believe you can do it", will make the other party feel that they are being followed and virtually shorten the distance between you.

In the workplace, flattery can sometimes determine your position and whether you are favored by your boss.

"Hmph, sycophant!" Colleague A in the workplace looked disdainful, picked up the remote control and wanted to change the channel, "I don't like flattering people the most, just play tricks!"

No wonder, since entering the workplace, A has been brooding over this issue - he does all the hard work in the office, but the leader prefers another guy with "low ability".

"Isn't it because he knows how to flatter!" A was indignant.Because of this, a's career experience was very bumpy.

And b is just the opposite.As a middle-level foreign company, he is experiencing the wonderful feeling of being praised by his subordinates.After speaking at a meeting a few days ago, the group of beauties under him gathered around all of a sudden: "Boss, your speech is amazing!" Two tricks!"...B waved his hands again and again, saying "Where is that?", but he still couldn't help being happy. b's workplace experience is very smooth!

Yes, those words of praise do have an irresistible magic.

A similar story is also being staged in the well-known TV series "Wulin Biography".

In the second level, in order to encourage Xiao Guo to work, everyone seemed to have honey on their lips——

The scholar said: "Help me wash these shoes, and put the soles back together. You are the best!"

Dazui said: "Help me rub this corn and grind it into flour. You can do it, you are not an ordinary person."

Xiaobei brought the quilt to be washed and did not forget to say a good word: "Thank you, it's all up to you!"

In the face of such "flattery", not only Xiao Guo, I believe that the vast majority of people can only be caught without a fight.

A person's success depends on hard work and opportunities, but also depends on good interpersonal relationships.Good interpersonal relationships can be considered as social resources that we have.

Many people think that the establishment of interpersonal relationship can be obtained by flattery, so how should we treat flattery?We can't flatter, blindly please others without objective facts, but we can create a strong taste of flattery.

To put it simply, if everyone knows that you are flattering, then you don't shoot; but if you shoot as if you didn't shoot, then go for it.

So, just like what I said before, for the act of flattering, the benevolent sees benevolence, and the wise see wisdom. has a very important role. (To be continued..)

ps: Note: Thank you Jin Guiguan for your generous reward and support, thank you!