PDLP Chapter 1409 The Most Correct Way
Chapter 1409 The Most Correct Way
The harm of Internet addiction is really great. In order to get rid of the Internet addiction in their children and save their children, some parents will go to extremes because of this. These people have changed some of their life concepts and made their minds The idea is completely different from normal people, just like those patients with Stockholm Syndrome.
Stockholm Syndrome, Stockholm Effect, also known as Stockholm Syndrome or Hostage Complex or Hostage Syndrome, refers to a complex in which the victim of a crime has feelings for the perpetrator, and even helps the perpetrator in turn.This emotion causes the victim to have a good impression of the perpetrator, to rely on him, and even to assist the perpetrator.
The hostage will have a psychological dependence on the hijacker.Their life and death control is in the hands of the hijackers, and they are grateful for the hijackers for letting them survive.
They share fate with the hijackers, regard the future of the hijackers as their own, and regard the safety of the hijackers as their own.Thus, they adopt an "us against them" {}.s. attitude, treating the rescuers as enemies.
On August 1973, 8, two former criminals, jnerkolssn and clrkolfssn, attempted to rob Sweden, the largest bank in Stockholm, the capital of Sweden, and failed. Hours later, it ended when the gangster gave up.However, months after the incident, the four bank employees who were held hostage still showed compassion for their kidnappers, and they refused to charge the kidnappers in court.They even raised funds for their legal defense. They all stated that they did not hate the gangsters and expressed their gratitude to the gangsters for taking care of them instead of harming them.And take a hostile attitude towards the police.
What's more, one of the hostages, a female employee crstn, even fell in love with the robber olfssn and got engaged to him while serving his sentence.
The two bandits took hostages for six days, during which time they threatened the lives of the captives, but they sometimes showed a benevolent side.Under unexpected psychological changes, these four hostages resisted the government's efforts to rescue them.
This incident has inspired social scientists who want to understand this emotional bonding between captors and captives.Is this a special case of the Stockholm bank robbery, or does this combination of emotions represent a general psychological response.
Later research revealed that this incident, which researchers have dubbed the "Stockholm Syndrome".Surprisingly common.
Researchers have found examples of this syndrome in a variety of experiences, ranging from concentration camp prisoners, prisoners of war, and victims of -masochistic -women and incest - Stockholm syndrome experiences may occur.In-depth research by experts: There is a fragile bottom line of fear that human beings can bear.When a person meets a ferocious killer, the killer is unreasonable.Want to take his life at any time.The hostages will gradually entrust the right to life to the murderer.
Time has dragged on for a long time, and the hostage eats a mouthful of food and drinks a mouthful of water. With every breath, he himself feels that it is the tolerance and compassion of the terrorists towards him.
For the thug who kidnapped him, his fear will first turn into gratitude to him, then into a kind of worship, and finally the hostage also subconsciously thinks that the thug is safe.It is your own safety.
This weakness of succumbing to tyranny is called "Stockholm Syndrome".
An explanation of evolutionary psychology.From a psychoanalytic perspective, the syndrome may develop from the newborn infant's tendency to form an emotional attachment to the closest powerful adult in order to maximize the likelihood that the surrounding adult will at least allow him to survive (or become an ideal parent) .Stockholm Syndrome is an important example of role identification defense mechanism.
People can be domesticated - Stockholm Syndrome.
According to research by psychologists, people who are emotionally dependent on others and easily moved, if they encounter similar situations, are prone to Stockholm syndrome. Stockholm syndrome usually has the following characteristics:
The first is that you really feel that your life is threatened.It makes you feel it, but as to whether it will happen or not, it is not necessarily, and then I believe that the perpetrator will do it at any time, without hesitation.
Second, if you meet the abuser's request, he will definitely give you small favors, which is the most critical condition for Stockholm syndrome, such as giving you water when you feel desperate.
Third, it only gives you the information and ideas controlled and screened by him, and you are not allowed to get any other information, which completely eliminates the possibility of you getting external information and ideas.
Fourth, it makes you feel like you have nowhere to go.
As long as these four conditions are met, people will have Stockholm syndrome.
In the "Internet Addiction Ring" program broadcast by CCTV's "New-News-Investigation", the performance of the parents at that time was another form of "Stockholm Syndrome":
The performance of the first article here is: when parents send their children to the Internet rehabilitation center, although their children are not threatened with their lives here, the children's long-term online behavior makes the parents feel very painful.
It made them feel that if they didn't send their children here, their children's lives would be dark and their families hopeless.In this case, parents will always feel threatened from the Internet.
The expression of the second article here is: After Director Yang's "treatment", the change in the child's behavior made the parents see some hope.
The expression of the third article here is: what the parents see is what the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions want them to see, and what the parents know is what the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions want them to know.
However, those so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions did not let parents fully know the consequences and harms of this kind of behavior therapy, as well as the qualifications of the implementers of this kind of behavior therapy.
Therefore, in this case, the information of the parents has been artificially screened out.
The expression of the fourth article here is: only here can save their children, and everything will be over if they leave here.
Because the above four conditions are met in some online rehabilitation centers.Therefore, "Stockholm Syndrome" is constantly flooding among parents.There is also an incredible situation where someone else hurts their child, but the parents continue to applaud the perpetrator with one voice!
In fact, it is not difficult to change this point, that is to let parents get out of these four conditions.See more content.
The first thing is to let parents see that their children's love of surfing the Internet is not their problem, but the trend of the times, so children's love of surfing the Internet is not the end point of the family, nor the destruction point of the child's life.
On this issue, what parents need is neither to label their children Internet addiction, nor to fear the word Internet addiction.It's about literacy of network knowledge and application for yourself!
Regarding the second article, parents should be helped to see the behavioral changes in their children under the "treatment" of those so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions.It is not a real growth, but a kind of deception under high pressure.
In addition, parents should also pay more attention to the status quo of those children who have been cured in these so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions. If parents pay attention to this point, then.They will find that they are actually in this online ring center.Some children are already seven in and seven out.
From this point of view alone, the so-called treatment by those so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions has failed, because the child’s Internet addiction has not been withdrawn, but the parent’s addiction to send the child to the Internet rehabilitation center has arisen.
When parents understand the truth of this, the myth of the second healing effect will be shattered.
Regarding number three, parents should be helped to realize that there are avenues they can go through before sending their child to such an Internet addiction treatment facility -- such as the Internet or consulting with other professionals.Have a general understanding of this treatment to best protect your child.Instead of sending the child to the Internet rehabilitation center before and after, he has no understanding of this kind of electrical stimulation treatment, and everything is arranged by the staff here.
It should be known that there are strict regulations on the implementer when implementing electrical stimulation-type aversion therapy: firstly, the implementer is required to have the qualification certificate of psychological therapist for behavior therapy, and the certificate of mental health practitioner is not enough;
Secondly, professional institutions are required to provide them with training in psychological counseling and treatment.
These requirements have already been clearly stipulated in big cities such as Beiping and Mingzhu, so as to protect the rights and interests of the treated to the greatest extent, and it is also a further regulation of the rights and obligations of medical workers in the mental health field.
In addition, even if this treatment can be administered to patients, there are still a number of basic considerations that patients and their guardians must be aware of:
[-]. Aversion therapy will bring patients very unpleasant or even painful experiences. Therefore, it should be the last choice in psychological counseling and treatment, and it should not be used more often.
[-]. Before using, explain clearly to the patient and obtain his consent to obtain his close cooperation.
[-]. When performing aversive treatment, pay attention to helping patients establish discriminative conditioned responses, that is, negative reinforcement for bad behaviors, positive reinforcement for benign behaviors, and positive reinforcement stimulation when necessary.
In the implementation, the following steps should be carried out:
[-]. To test the competencies of those participating in the program before allowing use of the program.
[-]. Before using the program, let everyone who implements the program experience the taste of electric shock.
[-]. Set up special personnel to be responsible for arranging shifts and classes.
[-]. It is necessary to keep records confirmed by supervisors and basic treatment personnel separately for each shift or class.
Only when parents understand every requirement and every step of electrical stimulation therapy clearly can parents decide whether to carry out such treatment on their children.
As long as the parents have this vigilance, starting from these four points, they can quickly see what the essence of the matter is. Once the perpetrator uses or abuses electrical stimulation in violation of the regulations, the parents can stop or question the other party, so as to maximize If I protect my children to the maximum extent, there will be no weird scenes where others hurt my children and I applaud them.
When our parents constantly threaten their children with "If you are disobedient, I will give you away", or if the children do not meet the parents' expectations or satisfy the parents, the parents will scold and scold the children. It will make children feel nervous, anxious, fearful, and abandoned;
If the child meets the expectations of the parents, the child can be rewarded; only let the child think according to his own thinking mode-then we are already the creators of "Stockholm Syndrome".
It can be said.This kind of syndrome is not uncommon around us. Only when parents have a clear awareness in their hearts can they avoid becoming another "Stockholm Syndrome" maker and patient.In order to finally restore the family peace.
If you don’t want your child to be a victim of this syndrome, and you don’t want your family’s warmth to be lost because of this, please parents and friends start from the above four points and reflect on your words and deeds when educating your children. Don't do anything to achieve the so-called effect you want!
Finally, it should be noted that the word Internet addiction is only a written word, and it has not been included in medical records.
The idea of Internet addiction originated from the American doctor Golden Berg.Like most medical terms. "Internet addiction" is an imported product.The difference is that it started out as a joke.
In 1995, American psychiatrist Ivan Goldberg (ivngldberg) spoofed the authoritative "Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders (DS-IV)".Mimicking its description of gambling addiction, the term "Internet Addiction (interddtndsrder, iad)" was coined.
Unexpectedly, the word was hit right and wrong, and this word was loved by colleagues.It quickly became popular in the media.And without irony.
The creator of "Internet addiction" and many of his colleagues still regard Internet addiction as a joke.
The instigator, Dr. Goldenberg, believes that Internet addiction is not a real addiction. Excessive emphasis on it will cause any habit to be called a disease. What about treatment?
In addition, some people think that even if there are phone addiction and golf addiction, Internet addiction is not established.Because the network is not an item, but a living environment.You can't say that a person loves his neighborhood.Suffering from family syndrome.
In China, there is really a word called "homesickness", but it is a literary metaphor, and there is no special consulting room in the hospital.
Many Internet addiction treatment facilities claim that "Internet addiction" is a very serious disease in foreign countries. However, in 2007, the American Medical Association rejected the suggestion of the American Psychiatric Association to include "Internet addiction" in the "Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders".
At the same time, as far as foreign countries are concerned, there is no medical institution claiming that "Internet addiction" is a disease or a bad symptom.
To be honest, the Internet does open the door to some mental illnesses.
For example, a person with a sex addiction can spend all day watching pornography on the Internet; for a shopaholic, shopping online saves time and effort; a procrastinator will find that all kinds of information on the Internet make him want to stop ; let alone a gamer or a gambler, but you have to treat the habits and diseases themselves, not get them off the Internet.
The simplest example is, you go to "Baidu Know" and ask: "What should I do if I have bulimia?" Some netizens replied: "Go to the hospital and cut out the stomach." This is what you want answer? !Clearly, clearly not.
However, it is surprising that the Chinese media and medical circles quickly introduced the term "Internet addiction", and what is even more surprising is that you can hardly see that it is controversial, let alone from Chinese materials. to the other side of the controversy.
You would think that Internet addiction, as a new disease, has declared war on the future of mankind, and the world's most outstanding medical experts have bravely joined this battle and are busy with their hands.
It is also for this reason that many doctors who support Internet addiction treatment are striving for official recognition in their own country.
In the promotional materials of Chinese medical institutions, Internet addiction is portrayed as a scourge, various mental diseases, symptoms of mental illness, such as depression, slow thinking, dizziness, trembling hands, fatigue, poor eating and drinking, wanting to Suicide or even endangering others can be included.
Some "careful people" even say that Internet addiction degrades human nature and turns it into animal nature.
Many parents don't know how to communicate with their children, and they don't understand what the Internet is. They only know that their children are addicted to Internet cafes all day long. When they hear the threat of such "authoritative experts", they naturally think that they are lucky enough to meet a life-saver, and they are willing to spend any money on their children. Leave it to him to treat the so-called 'Internet addiction'.
This is a serious form of self-deception.The society does not recognize the failure of its own educational programs, and parents do not recognize the inappropriateness of their own educational methods.
When the word "Internet addiction" appeared, parents, schools, and society unanimously shifted the responsibility to an environment that could not bear any responsibility.People would rather be immersed in the dream of self-deception, but dare not face their own failure.And the victims of this self-deception are innocent children.
Electric shocks and other methods that directly threaten children's physical and mental health are taken for granted by them. Many children choose to give up their self-esteem under this kind of persecution.
Reliance on the Internet is the general trend of history, and online games are a cheap form of entertainment nowadays.What the society needs is not the physical and mental persecution of "internet addiction treatment".Instead, it should be bootstrapped.
Good parents should learn how to guide their children to access the Internet and deepen communication between parents and children.Instead of handing them over to so-called Internet addiction facilities.This approach has no benefit other than increasing the gap between parents and children.
Those experts who promote "Internet addiction" rely on it to gain prestige and resources, and treatment institutions rely on it to earn money.How they hope that all netizens think they are sick and become their customers.
In this way, Dr. Ivan Goldberg's joke became a big one when he came to China.
It is very humorous that I also saw Chinese experts introduce Goldenberg's original ideas in a serious manner, and regard him as the originator of Internet addiction treatment.
It is also for this reason that many people regard the so-called Internet addiction as a self-written and directed movie, and do not admit the existence of the word Internet addiction at all.
To sum up, in the face of Internet addiction, our parents must treat it correctly. Even if your child really has Internet addiction, the best way is to resolve it with family affection. This is the most correct and safest way way.
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